Nikah — ek paak rishta jo na sirf do insaano ko jodta hai, balki do khandaano ko bhi ek doosre se roshan karta hai. Islam mein Nikah ko sirf ek social contract nahi, balki ibaadat ka hissa kaha gaya hai. Lekin aaj ke dor mein hum yeh dekhte hain ke aksar log Nikah karne mein der karte hain. Sawal yeh hai: yeh der kis wajah se hai? Rizq ka dar ya society ka dabaav?
Aaiye is pehle nazar dalte hain…
1. Rizq Ka Dar – “Kya Main Apna Ghar Chala Paunga?”
Aaj ka naujawan aksar yeh sochta hai ke shaadi se pehle uske paas perfect income, acha ghar aur stable career hona zaroori hai. Yeh soch ek had tak theek bhi hai, kyunki zimmedari uthana zaroori hai.
Lekin yeh dar itna gehra kyun ho gaya?
- Mehengaai ki tez raftaar
- Career aur business ke challenges
- “Pehle apna ghar banao, phir shaadi karo” ka rivaaj
Yeh sab factors mil kar ek aisi soch peda kar dete hain ke Nikah ek “bohot bara bojh” ban gaya hai. Jabke asal mein Qur’an mein Allah Ta’ala ne waada kiya hai ke:
“Aur jo log nikah nahi kar sakte, unhein chahiye ke wo apne aap ko paak rakhain, yahan tak ke Allah apne fazal se unhein ghani kar de.” (Surah An-Noor: 33)
Yani rizq ki zimmedari insaan ki nahi, Allah ki hai. Nikah rizq ko kam nahi, balki barhata hai.
Kya sirf larka-larki ki raza kaafi hai, ya walidain ka razi hona bhi laazmi hai?
Islamic perspective aur society ke pressure ke darmiyan asli sach kya hai?
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2. Society Ka Dabaav – “Log Kya Kahenge?”
Rizq ka dar ek side hai, lekin doosri taraf society ka “pressure cooker” bhi hai. Log chhoti baaton ko itna bara bana dete hain ke Nikah ki raah mushkil ho jati hai.
Society ke dabaav ki misaalein:
- Shaadi ki mehngai: “Ladki wale itna denge, ladke wale itna karenge”
- Show-off culture: Baraat, walima, decoration, expensive halls
- Shaadi ki age limit: “Abhi toh tumhari umar hi kya hai” ya phir “Itni umar ho gayi abhi tak shaadi nahi hui?”
- Social comparisons: “Unke bete ki shaadi aisi hui thi, tumhari waise kyun nahi?”
Yeh sab baatein ek simple Sunnat ko ek heavy burden bana deti hain. Natija? Nikah delay hota hai.
3. Sunnat-e-Nikah Aur Aaj Ki Haqiqat
Rasoolullah ﷺ ne farmaaya:
“Jab tumhare paas koi aisa rishta aaye jiska deen aur akhlaaq tumhe pasand ho, to usse shaadi kar do. Agar tum aisa nahi karoge to zameen mein fitna aur fasaad phail jaayega.” (Tirmizi)
Magar humne deen aur akhlaaq se zyada degree, salary package aur status ko priority de diya hai. Yeh hi asli wajah hai Nikah mein der ki.
4. Der Ka Nateeja – Fitna Aur Bechaini
Nikah delay karne ke anjaam society pe khud samne aate hain:
- Zina aur haram rishte barh jaate hain
- Mental stress aur depression zyada hota hai
- Families mein unnecessary conflicts
- Youth ka focus apni asli growth se hat jata hai
Aakhir mein sab se zyada nuqsan insaan khud uthata hai.
5. Hal Kya Hai?
a) Rizq Pe Tawakkul
Apna imaan mazboot banayein. Rizq ka waada Allah ne kiya hai. Nikah ke baad barakat zyada hoti hai, kam nahi.
b) Simple Shaadi Culture
Sunnat ke mutabiq simple shaadi karna hi society ke pressure ka best jawab hai.
c) Age Ko Issue Na Banayein
Nikah ke liye maturity aur deen ka hona zaroori hai, “perfect age” ka formula nahi.
d) Family Support
Maa-baap aur guardians agar unnecessary demands kam kar dein, to Nikah asaan ho sakta hai.
Khulasah
Nikah mein der ki sabse bari wajah do hain – ek apna dar, aur doosra logon ka dabaav. Dono hi insaan ko is paak rishtay se door karte hain. Lekin asal haqeeqat yeh hai ke Nikah ko delay karna na humare liye acha hai aur na hi society ke liye.
Jab Allah ne Nikah ko barakah ka zariya banaya hai, to phir hum kyun dar rahe hain?
Sochiye… kya hum waqai “logon ke kehne” aur “future ka dar” ke liye apni zindagi ka sabse khoobsurat rishta delay karna chahte hain?
“Aap ke khayal mein aaj kal Nikah mein sabse badi rukawat kya hai – Rizq ka darr ya society ka pressure? Shayad iska jawab aapki soch se zyada qareeb ho.”
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