“Jahan dil mein takabbur aa jaaye, wahan mohabbat apna rasta khud banakar chali jaati hai.”
🌙 Introduction: Jab Nikah Mein Barkat Kam Padne Lage…
Aaj kal hum ek ajeeb daur se guzar rahe hain — jahan shadi ek ibadat se zyada ek competition ban gayi hai.
Kapdon ka brand, venue ka décor, mehmaanon ki list, gifts, social status — sab kuch izzat aur dikhावे ka maamla ban gaya hai.
Lekin iss sab ke beech hum bhool gaye hain us rooh ko, jo nikah ko barkat aur sukoon deti hai — tawazu (humility).
Kitne rishtay aise dekhe gaye hain jo sirf ghuroor (pride) aur takabbur (arrogance) ke chhote se beej se toot gaye.
Ek taraf larkay walon ka fakhar: “Humari status unse upar hai.”
Doosri taraf larki walon ka jawab: “Hum bhi kisi se kam nahi!”
Aur beech mein, wo rishta — jo Allah ke naam par bandha ja raha tha — dhool mein bikhar jaata hai.
Toh aakhir sawal ye hai:
👉 “Shadi Mein Ghuroor Aur Takabbur – Rishtay Kyun Toot Jaate Hain?”
Chaliye, dil se samajhte hain is sawal ka jawab.
“Kya aap jaante hain… kai baar bachon ki shaadi der se hone ka sabab khud maa-baap bhi ban jaate hain?”
Yeh baat sunne mein ajeeb lagti hai, lekin sach yahi hai. Is blog mein hum ne un 5 ghaltiyon ka zikr kiya hai jo achhe iradon ke bawajood maa-baap se ho jaati hain — aur phir rishton ke darwaze band hone lagte hain.
👉 Zaroor padhiye: “Apne Bachon Ki Shadi Mein Der – Maa Baap Ki 5 Ghaltiyaan Jo Hum Samajh Nahi Paate”
Aankhein khol dene wala maqala — shayad ismein aapko apni kahani nazar aaye…
💔 1. Ghuroor – Ek Chhupi Hui Aag Jo Rishtay Jala Deti Hai
Ghuroor kisi ek action ka naam nahi, balki ek haalat hai — ek soch jo kehti hai:
“Main behtar hoon, main sahi hoon, mujhe jhukna nahi.”
Jab ye soch nikah ke safar mein shamil ho jaaye, toh wo sukoon aur mohabbat jo ek rishtay ko mazboot banati hai, dhire-dhire khatam ho jaati hai.
Real-life Example:
Ayesha aur Fahad ka rishta sirf is baat par toot gaya ke larki walon ne mehndi ke venue mein “unke status ke hisaab se décor nahi kiya.”
Ek chhoti si baat thi, lekin dono taraf ke ego ne use jang bana diya.
Aur jab ego bolta hai, toh aql khamosh ho jaati hai.
🌿 2. Takabbur – Jab Insaan Apni Qeemat Allah Se Oonchi Samajhne Lage
Takabbur sirf logon ke saamne fakhar karna nahi — ye Allah ke hukum ke khilaaf jaana hai.
Rasool Allah ﷺ ne farmaya:
“Jis ke dil mein rai ke dane jitna bhi takabbur hoga, wo jannat mein nahi jaayega.”
(Sahih Muslim)
Shadi ek aisa amal hai jo Allah ke hukum se hota hai, aur jab usmein takabbur aa jaye — jaise daulat, khandaan, status ya beauty par ghamand — toh Allah us rishtay se barkat hata leta hai.
💍 3. Jab Shadi Dikhawa Ban Jaaye – Mohabbat Ka Asal Matlab Gum Ho Jaata Hai
Aaj kal ke daur mein shadiyon mein sabse zyada zikar hota hai:
- “Catering kis company ne ki?”
- “Bride ka lehenga designer hai?”
- “Venue 5-star hotel mein hai ya banquet mein?”
Lekin koi yeh nahi poochta:
- “Dono ek dusre ke liye Allah ke raaste mein kitne khul kar duaa karte hain?”
- “Unke beech tawakkul aur khuloos hai ya nahi?”
Dikhawa ka nateeja:
- Barbaad hone wale lakhs of rupees.
- Shuru hone se pehle toot jaane wale rishtay.
- Nafrat aur comparison ka silsila.
Yehi hai ghuroor aur takabbur ka zahar jo nikah ki rooh ko maar deta hai.
🕊️ 4. Rishtay Tootne Ka Sabse Bada Wajah – “Main” Ka Jazba
Har tootay hue rishtay ke peeche ek lafz hota hai – “Main”.
“Main sahi hoon”, “Main kyun maafi maangu?”, “Main kam kyu karun?”
Yad Rakhiye:
- Mohabbat sirf tab barkat laati hai jab dono taraf “Main” ki jagah “Hum” aa jaye.
- Jo jhukta hai, wo haar nahi jaata — balki wo rishtay ko jeet leta hai.
- Shadi ek partnership hai, battlefield nahi.
🌸 5. Deen Humein Kya Sikhata Hai?
Islam humein tawazu (vinamrata), sabr (patience), aur ikhlaas (sincerity) sikhata hai.
Rasool Allah ﷺ ka nikah duniya ka sabse simple tha —
Na mehenga jahaiz, na dikhawa, na status ka daawa.
Lekin aaj humne deen ko peeche chhodkar duniya ka competition bana liya hai.
Islamic Reminder:
“Sabse behtareen nikah wo hai jisme sabse kam kharch ho.”
(Ibn Majah)
Toh phir hum kis cheez par fakhar kar rahe hain?
💫 6. Apne Gharon Mein Barkat Lautane Ka Raasta
Agar hum chahte hain ke humare gharon mein barkat, sukoon aur mohabbat qayam rahe, toh humein kuch zaruri qadam uthana honge:
Step-by-step:
- Niyyat ko saaf karein – Shadi Allah ke hukum aur sunnah ke mutabiq karein.
- Dikhawa chhodein – Logo ke liye nahi, Allah ke liye shadi karein.
- Dil ko namrak banayein – Maafi dene aur jhukne ki aadat daalein.
- Dua aur Istikhara karein – Har faislay mein Allah se rehnumai maangein.
- Aapas mein izzat aur shukar – Rishtay ka asal ta’alluq izzat aur shukar se hota hai.
💭 7. Ek Kahani Jo Dil Chhoo Jaaye
Nazia aur Imran dono achi family se the. Proposal aaya, dono razi the.
Lekin jab negotiation chalu hua, baat paison aur gifts tak pahunch gayi.
“Humari beti doctor hai, hum kuch kam nahi chahte.”
“Hamare bete ne foreign se study ki hai, hum bhi izzat chahte hain.”
Aur bas, wo rishta — jo sakoon aur barkat la sakta tha — sirf ego ki wajah se khatam ho gaya.
Aaj dono taraf regret hai, lekin waqt laut kar nahi aata.
🌼 8. Ghuroor Aur Takabbur Ka Ilaaj – Apni Soch Ko Badlna
Qadam 1: Apni Neeyat Check Karein
Kya hum shadi Allah ke hukum ke mutabiq kar rahe hain ya logon ke fear mein?
Qadam 2: Maafi Aur Namrata Seekhein
Jo log maaf karte hain, Allah unka maqam buland karta hai.
Qadam 3: Comparison Band Karein
Har rishta apni journey mein unique hota hai — doosron se muqabla karna us barkat ko mita deta hai jo Allah ne likhi hoti hai.
❤️ 9. Jab Dil Namr Ho, Toh Nikah Mein Barkat Hoti Hai
Ek shaadi tab khoobsurat banti hai jab dono taraf tawazu aur shukar hota hai.
Jab larka ke walid kehte hain,
“Hum aapki beti ko apni beti samajh kar le ja rahe hain.”
Aur larki ke walid jawab dete hain,
“Hum apni beti ko Allah ke bharose aapko de rahe hain.”
Toh samajh lijiye, wo rishta sirf dono ke beech nahi, Allah ke saath bhi bandh gaya hai.
🌙 Conclusion: Shadi Mein Ghuroor Aur Takabbur – Rishtay Kyun Toot Jaate Hain?
Rishtay tab toot jaate hain jab hum Allah ki rehmat ke bajaye apni “izzat aur status” ko upar rakh lete hain.
Takabbur aur ghuroor hamesha rishtay ko kha jaate hain — jaise zeher dheere-dheere jism ko.
Yaad Rakhiye:
“Jo Allah ke liye jhukta hai, Allah use duniya aur aakhirat dono mein buland karta hai.”
Agar hum apni shadiyon ko Allah ke hukum, rasool ﷺ ki sunnat, aur tawazu ke zariye sajayein —
Toh koi rishta tootega nahi, balki barkat se khil uthega.
✨ Sochne wali baat:
Kya hum apni shadiyon ko Allah ke liye kar rahe hain, ya logon ke liye?
Agar jawab pehle waala hai — toh samajh lijiye, aapke rishtay mein barkat likhi ja chuki hai.
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